Im soo scared...im only 13.. i cry almost everyday... 10 points =(?
me and him used to be good friends when i was little. we laughed a lot, i told him (not my mom she is very strickt) all my worrie, funny stories and secrets... last year i started to spend more time with friends than i used to. around 4 -5 months ago he quit smoking and never had a cigarete ever since but he became mean. first 2 months he was just meanish whenever he got a ciagrete cravign which is totaly normal. but last 2 months he is mean only to me. with all other ppl he is himself - kind and funny
but with me he gets ina fight a lot, sometimes calls me crazy.. he slapped me btu than later apologised... today he wanted to break my laptop becaus ei wanted to chat with my friends and than clean my sort a pile of magazines in my room (i promised to sort it a week ago or something like that, but thingws like that never bothered him before)
t scares me becaus eh is himself with everyone else... when i tell him he was better before he gets very agry and says that i dont understand and that if i dont care about my future, my perents do and they have to take car eof me and stuff.... i cried for almost 2 hours today morning!!! wats wrong =(((
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You should give him some time, the main thing is to show him that you are there for him.
Good luck!
Your mom, your guidance counselor...and she will help you sort it out.
It sounds like your dad has some issues and he shouldn't be mad at you.
or try talking to him nicely and see where you get with that.
Tell your mom what you've observed and ask her what's going on.
One way or another things will get better they always do dont they? I mean they have to things cant be bad forever that would not be normal.
so just talk to him your his little girl he should understand.
When he says, "you don't understand, and that if you don't care about your future, your parents do." This makes me wonder if he is sort of 'cracking down' because of your schooling. How are your grades? Do you complete all of your homework? Do you take your school life seriously?
What you could try doing is prioritizing. Put the laptop away, and focus on getting the important tasks done. For example, following through on something you said you would do, like organizing your magazines. He may be getting frustratedbecause you're in junior high school now, almost high school, and you aren't taking your education seriously.
Another thing to consider is parents are human, too. We sometimes view them as stable and iinfallible but that isn't necessarily true. I discovered this when I became an adult. He may be at a loss as what to do to communicate with you, because with time, you have also changed, you're no longer a child, but getting much closer to a grown woman. So let's try being mature, and showing him you are responsible enough to make decisions for yourself, so he doesn't have to make them for you.
If you have trouble remember what you're supposed to do, you could make a list. What I do is every night I make a list of important things I need to do the next day, then the next day, as more comes up, I simply just add to it. If I don't get something done by the end of the day, I put it at the top of tomorrow's list. But make sure you do what you put on your list.
Last, but not least, it is NOT okay for him to be hitting you. I think it's important that you talk to someone about that. Like a school counsellor. Regardless of what he may feel you are doing wrong, slapping you is not okay. And you should not have to take it.That is abuse, and it is illegal in most countries.
Good luck!
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